Agony Aunt Kate teac...

I think that your really cool and I luv your witty sexy articles for rxxx (needs more!). I have some questions which I hope you maybe able to help me answer. I'm a 25 year old bi tv and am currently interested in trying out as an escort. Are there any websites or sources of general advice out there that would give me a perspective on how to pursue such a business?

For example are there escort agencies that deal specifically with TVs or have tvs on their books? Where is the best place to get a web site designed? is it best to get listed in a paper like the Sunday Sport etc.

What kind of prices does one charge. And what are the legal aspects of this game? If you could help me in any way I would be eternally grateful.

luv samxx

Agony Aunt Kate replies:

Hi Sam

Thank you for those kind words about my ads.

You have already made the first right decision - always try out being an escort before making any radical changes in your life. With so many t-girls willing to give it away, you need to be versatile and be able to offer something a bit special. As far as active men are concerned, you are also competing with real girl escorts, as most tv admirers tend to be heteros out for a taste of a forbidden fruit, rather than bi-sexual, whatever those two labels might actually mean.

You have no fears on the legal side. It is perfectly legal to be a transvestite or any other type of prostitute if you operate discreetly in the privacy of your own home. If you have any dealings with the police, they are under very strict instructions to treat minority sexual groups with utmost respect and they can get into serious doggy do-dos for not doing so. If you ever graduate to being kerb-crawled by pre-arrangement, make sure you know your client's real name, as you're hardly likely to know it if the police intervene and accuse you of soliciting. He is your date, picking you up unexpectedly early.

You already have one advantage in that you are bi. Most tvs I know would describe themselves as hetro in their male persona, which means that, while they may be happy to use their cocks actively with other t-girls, that is not necessarily so when they are with men. I am probably rather unusual in that I rarely use
my cock, even with t-girls. For me the buzz of being Katie is almost entirely mental when I am being naughty, though I do get sexually aroused by the act of getting dressed and seeing myself dressed. Perhaps it is some deep-seated desire to fuck myself

The best way to find advice on things tv is to learn how to properly use the Internet search engines, the best of which is undoubtedly Google. By using the advanced search feature at Google.co.uk intelligently you can home in on a particular subject very easily. The key lies in choosing a combination of words that will filter out all the sites for which you do not want a listing. For example, if you want to find out about cosmetics for tvs to buy rather than just advice, make sure you include the phrases on-line or mail order as well as transvestite or transgender and cosmetics. Another tip is to include UK or London or some other city, otherwise your search is likely to be world-wide, rather than localised, even though you are using the UK Google engine.

Obviously, dedicated tv sites like rxxx will provide information and advice. Another good source of this are the many sites that cater for tv and fetish clothing. If they do not have advice pages themselves, they often have a list of links to sites that do. The many hundreds of sites created by tvs at or linked to Geocities are well worth trawling through, not only for advice pages, but also for inspiration for your own website appearance. Check out http://www.geocities.com/tvcddirectory/ for a comprehensive listing of those sites. When you find a good site or a list of interesting links to other pages, make sure you bookmark it, adding your own meaningful comment, because the chances are that you will not be able to find it again after weaving through many dozens of linked sites. Sign up for the free use of Google groups as well. Again, home in on the tv/ts/tg sites using the seach facility. These are news groups where you can post questions that other members may have an answer to. You can also use them for free advertising, though the posting of pics is not allowed. If you have a page somewhere on the net with pics, you can include a link to the page within the text of your posted message. I could put up a few pics for you on my FTP site, for which I can provide links that you can quote in your postings.

Creating your own website does not have to be expensive, but there are plenty of sharks out there who will charge you the Earth and deliver very little. In terms of hands-on control, creating your own website from scratch is the ideal and there are plenty of easy-to-use web creation packages that make this relatively simple, even for the non computer literate - check out the latest reviews published in most pc and Internet magazines. If you don't want to go it alone, most websites that you visit will have the name of their creator - often the webmaster him/herself. When you find sites that appeal, note down the relevant details. When you have twenty or so, broadcast an email to them all, asking for quotes. Their quotes should include a price list for all the various features that they can provide, what hosting they can arrange and a price and any ongoing costs, plus a time-scale for going on-line. Be sure to tell them that your content is going to be smutty, as this will have a bearing on which host they recommend. You need to quiz them on the level of control that you will have in terms of uploading pics, changing texts, posting your own ads, viewing inbound payments for members-only areas or client deposits etc. Avoid any arrangements where you have to instruct another party in order to make day-to-day updates.

Before even considering having a website, check out the very much simpler alternative of having pages hosted on someone else's site. Rxxx, for example, will
create a page for you with your own text and pictures free of charge. They can also provide individually dedicated members-only areas on a shared revenue basis. The latter would normally contain more raunchy stuff such as porno vid clips that would entice surfers to pay an additional fee to view.

What you charge will depend on how much of a draw you are. You are competing not only with other t-whores, but also with real girl sub/Dom girls. I think a realistic charge for just sucking and fucking is ?70 for one hour and ?100 for two. If you intend to provide kinkier services, such as mutual bondage, punishment, slave training and dressing services, then a charge of ?150 for two or three hours is reasonable, given the additional set-up time involved, not to mention the dangers involved if you allow yourself to be bondaged. You can ask for gratuities such as drinks and flowers on top of your fee. The real key to success is to have clients who re-visit you, so a friendly approach is essential. If they are treated like a meal-ticket, they will not be back.

Your biggest headache is going to be time-wasters. There are ways of warding them off or at least lessening the effects of their behaviour. It is important to understand the categories of time-wasters and their psyche.

The primary group are those with no intentions of turning up in the first place. They derive a kick from just talking to you - often asking you what you are wearing and what you will do, whilst wanking themselves - and from taking things to the brink by fixing a definite date and time and feigning the taking down of your directions. A second group become angst-ridden when it comes to actually enacting a long-held fantasy, because of being 'unfaithful' to their partner or for fear of being found out, outed or blackmailed by you. A third group are the ones that are too polite to tell you that they are surprised that you do not speak like Marilyn Monroe and say just about anything other than 'no thanks'.

If you receive an emailed enquiry, get them to phone you the day before or at least three hours prior to their suggested date and time without concealing their number. When you receive the initial phone call, tell them to call back if they have hidden their number. If they make an excuse, ask them for their number and call them back. Alternatively, ask them to call back when they can reveal their number. Once you have a number-revealed call, make some excuse - someone at the door for example - and ask them to call again in five minutes. This will eliminate the third category of time-waster, as he will not call back. If your phone does not record 'successful' inbound call numbers, be ready to write down the number whilst taking this second call. Make sure that the caller knows that you know their number. Time-wasters are usually clever people and the significance of you knowing their number will not be lost on them - ie. the possibility of getting text-spammed if they muck you about. If you are in the habit of wanting, shall we say, three hours notice, get your would-be client to re-confirm three hours prior to the appointed time and tell them that if they do not, they will have to take pot-luck. If, in the meantime, you have another potential client lined up for that time, you can then ask them to call a half-hour after the re-confirmation dead-line, in case your other client has failed to re-confirm. That way, the time-waster has not disrupted your day.

Dos and Don'ts. Never confirm a booking without a number-revealed call, ie exclusively by email. Do not reveal your precise address until you receive the final re-confirmation call - just give them a landmark to head for in the locality. Better still, guide them to your doorstep only when they call to say they have arrived at the landmark. Tell them during the initial call that, should an emergency arise, you will only contact them by text message. If anyone argues the toss about giving you their number, explain this as being the reason and reassure them that you will only use texting.

One tactic that I employ if a first-time client contacts me more than a day in advance is to ask them to top up my pay-as-you-go mobile phone by way of a deposit and to contact me when they either have a scatch-card or are about to register a top-up by some other means. I then check my credit 'before' and 'after' and confirm to them by phone or text that the booking is confirmed. Of course, I tell them that the ?10 is deductible from my fee. As you can imagine, no one has done this and then not turned up. It is a cast-iron way of ensuring that someone is on the level.

And finally, never take your primary contact mobile out with you - if you lose it, you may find yourself up shit-creek without a paddle. In your ads tell would-be clients to text if there is no reply and you will text back when free to take a call. You can
always text any missed-call numbers on your return.

I hope this helps sweetpea.

Best wishes
Kate
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